Happy Halloween

It's a fantastic feast, but not popular for celebration here. However I still found some interesting stuffs in the supermarket of Taipei 101.
Just for fun...have a smile...

From Ending To Beginning

Yesterday was the last working day in Taipei Neihu Technology Park. We will move to a new building in downtown from next Monday. It's very near where now I live. Excluding traveling days, I may go to my office by walking. For me, it's really a good luck and an unexplainable fate. I am very familiar with this area since my first serving company is located here. It's also near Taipei 101. Who can predict where I will be? About 5 years ago, I didn't know I could hold on my current job up to the present and our company will move to this downtown.

The past few weeks a lot of things changed. Some friends were laid off and some is going to quit. To go forward the past few months, I lose an important distant relationship with my friend, but I found new land for my soul, I learned how to do self-healing, I got warm friendship and comforts. As well as those kind consideration, there were also some critical comments and warning to pull out myself from the sad mood. I knew very well no matter which way they expressed, they indeed cared and concerned me. As Mountainmama sent me this quote "There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction ~ Winston Churchill”, I would rather believe that everything will be arranged in its best way.

I think we all got some difficult issues for learning in this life, perhaps in family, friend or career, in physical or mental area. Sometimes I couldn’t help myself to fall into self-pitying, but I won’t allow that emotion stay too long. Now I am looking forward to my new working tempos.

Here I paste some wisdom quotes for myself and share with my dear friends.

About maturity~

Henri Bergson:
To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.

About expectaion~

Joan Didion:
To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves -- there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.

About beginning~

Lazurus Long:
Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.

Beyond Planning

I got a surprised notification this morning. Actually it wasn't a good one. My staff told me he will resign the job as I chatting with him how to go to our new office from next Monday. It seemed he already made up his mind since he already got an offer. I really felt regretful I was told at the last moment. It's not a good timing now just after I finished the project plan of the next year.

But...when is the good timing to tell the bad news to the relevent persons? If it happened to me? How will I do?

In the other way, I sincerely bless his new career and wish he indeed get a better one. I think the following projects won't be easier than the past jobs if he really felt overloaded or pressured. He won't be happy for the coming year. Everyone deserves a better life quality if he already got a new chance.

Another thing out of my plan is I was asked to have a business travel for one week in middle November. New project, new challenge. Though it's not scheduled in our annual plan, it's not a bad thing for me. I persue myself that I just need time to think and plan how to proceed it well, and I commit myself to try my best.

Most people don't like change and movement especially beyond their planning or expectation. But not all things come as our wish. The truth is most things couldn't be decided by ourselves. So to keep a peaceful mood and think those are nothing special is very important. Not an easy job but a good lesson for life.

Deal With Unpleasantness

How would you react if any uncomfortable situation happened between you and your family, your best friends, or partners? Will you adopt a straight way to speak out your feeling? or pretend you didn't care? or persue yourself nothing happened? Either which one, they might embrace the good side and the bad side. It is really hard to get the balance for all.

An unexpected visitor came to my house yesterday. If he just stayed for a while or a couple days, it's all right. But I was told just one hour before his coming and said he might stay for a couple weeks. I felt uncomfortable. I felt my private space was offended. I am not good at hiding my feeling, so I said some serious words to my family last night. After then I kept quiet for a few hours. Why some person often ignored the others' existence?

Today is Sunday. I have done a whole day of housework. The guest is still here. I was trained to be a polite person so I couldn't expel the guest. It seems I couldn't change the thing. I tried to remove my focus from his long stay. I kept myself in my room, listen to some music, and watched a movie to cheer myself. Later I will have a beauty treatment on my face and keep relaxed. I need to drive out the negative emotion quickly. Why should I let others effect my good mood and add wrinkles on my face?

Here is a good quote for all my dear friends.

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
- Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)

I also paste some happy tips from website by google search. Now I am trying to practice these as my spiritual homeworks.

It's more important to be happy than to be right.

You can either be happy, or unhappy. Choose happy.

Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don't feel it.

Treat everyone as you want to be treated.

Question Myself

No news for this weekend. The sunshine finally went through the heavy clouds. I like the cool and sunny day. I didn't go far and just walked around in the neighborhood of my house. I felt comfortable while the breeze brushing my hair. Like the other weeks, I did a lot of laundries and housework after a whole week of working days.

The major task for me in the 4th quarter is the budget preparation for the next year. By this year end, about 80% of our project plans will be confirmed. It means I almost know how tight my schedule will be for the coming year. In some way I might feel upset because I will get more responsibility and challenges. Some places I never visited in the past projects. I am not sure if I could make that succeed.

A few weeks ago I read the quote from mountainmama's blog,

Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

~Marie Curie

I think it would be a good reminder for me to dispel my doubts and fears for facing the uncertainty. In addition, I need make more efforts and spiritual construction before I go for the new area.

Sometimes I felt so lucky to get more chances for traveling than others, though most of them were due to my job required. Those travels did give me different views and growth for life. No matter where to go and what to experience, it will be only a part of my life journey. As the author, Stephen Covey, stating "the 90/10 Principle",

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react…

So... why I need to worry about the 10% of uncontrollable life?