Just Do It, Just In Time

Some days I felt confused and didn’t know how the time passed so soon. Some days I wonder what we are busy for. Then, what will you do or find something to support you to keep moving on? Have you ever thought what our mission ought to be in this life?

I just heard of an elder lady got cancer yesterday. As my mom told me, she almost dedicated herself to her family and work. But she never paid attention to her health. She ignored a several signs of her illness. She was overloaded with works and works. She thought she just got tired. Who would think of such thing happened on one’s prime of life? No one could accept the bad news as the doctor announced how many days she left.

I ever saw and knew most parents work hard through their lives but seldom spend money for themselves. What they do and concern is all about their children. So did this ill lady. She seemed never let herself to enjoy her life. I thought the best change was her two children became responsible after she got sick. It’s indeed a cruel lesson for all.

A friend sent me one story a few weeks ago. There was a man who never stopped his steps in his world. One day a wisdom finally caught up with him and asked why he always rushed to somewhere, he answered the death kept in step with him, so he ran fast to leave the death behind. The wisdom then asked, why did you think that way instead of the death should be in front of you? Why didn’t you just slow down to feel and enjoy every moment you have?

How about your views from the metaphor of this story? And then what would you make changes in your own world?
These days I have a few rough thoughts. Everyday we rush here and there. We race against time. Some days we lived without any focus and lost our faith. Could we just sit for a while to feel a peaceful moment? Could we just treat ourselves generously while healthy? Could we be a bit selfish and willful sometimes to care more about ourselves? It seems easy but actually not for some people.

Adjustment

It has been a long while I didn't reach any blogs, including mine. Everyday was another busy day in March. Most things came out of my planning. However, I passed through a fulfilled period in many aspects. I had conducted a new industry auditing, a pleasant tour to Hwalian(eastern Taiwan), and became a apprentice of Tai Ji Men (太極門) on March 28. I got a lot of new experiences and knew many kind people. All these inspired me very much. I felt more peaceful inside than before.

March 20~21, I joined a tour of my classmate's company. We visited the tribe of Taiwan Indians in Hwalian. I like those pure minds and admire their spirits. They don't have enough resources, but they work very hard to build their dreams. I saw their simple happiness. I couldn't help myself to notice their beautiful faces.

I used to worry about the future before, to think and imagine what would come. I know the moment is the most important than everything but I fail to hold so often. Since I joined Tai Ji Men, the positive thinking of those senior apprentices impressed me very much.

We communicate heart to heart, encourage people through experience sharings. and learn the method to heal ourselves. I was told to love in time, to see and appreciate those whom we love and those who love us, to look every event as a test in life, to love ourselves to enable us to give our love.

Today is April Fool's Day. Some friends like to make jokes to fool people around. We can be a fool to be fooled just for fun, but hard to live our life as a simple "fool". Maybe it's not bad to be a fool in such a complicate world. Now I am thinking if I could be such a "fool" to give others without any expectation, to enjoy the simple happiness through giving.

Harvest From My Trip

The first working day after my trip, there was non-stop running in my head, about the unfinished job, about the people I met there, and about all the things I experienced during my trip. Actually I am not so brave to face every sigle departure, but I think that's what we called " LIFE". When will we meet together next time? Could it be possible to be scheduled as our plans? Well...I bet we all know well the answer. As the age being added year by year, my heart seems more easily to be moved.

Regular visit my auditee once a year, I knew a lot of kind, smart, hospitable friends during my fieldwork. My appreciations are more than words. Without their full supports and precious time, my job would be an impossible mission. Every year I visit them, like to see my long time friends if they got any changed. It's a pity this time I heard of some friends resigned from these companies, so I hadn't the chance to see them again in this trip. Even I don't like the feeling, but this reality I used to say that's fate. If we have fate, we would meet again someday.

The important lesson of relationship reconstruction in these days is still pending. I think I had done my best to express my concern and feelings, but no response and surprise happened till the last minute, no one sigle thing of my imagination ever realized. However, I still feel happy we had broken the silence of communication, and keep the faith on the power of a true heart.

Now I feel a bit confused...Is this the destination? Perhaps no answer is also a kind of answers.

Who said time can tell everything? So far I haven't seen anything about my question. Anyway, as for how the future will go on, I will hand it over to God. Some people might stay longer in my life, some don't. So my simple thinking is just to make every pleasant moments to become my joyful memories in my rest life.

Lesson Of Growing Mature

Finally I got a chance to connect to internet on weekend during this trip. Traveling from Melaka to Jakarta, the internet connection are not free in hotels. For saving the cost, we have been staying away from internet world for two weeks, and only concentrated our time on the fieldwork.

I have a major mission and lesson to work out in this trip, and it's kind of tough for me so far. I think I have been tring my best to act my role, but still not good enough. Before this trip, I spent a long time for listening my heart, for thinking the better way to face my issues inside, for assuming many kinds of scenarios and oppertunities.

These days I felt some frozen relationship starting melted. It's a good sign for developing a new relationship, for reconstructing new basis of understanding. I believe the good will and true heart can soften everything and generate good interaction between people. Though I have no idea how will it end at the last moment, but I do hope there could be a good ending.

Some questions probably won't have answers till the end. And it seems no more important for the present moment. The only one thing I can make sure is, either good or bad fate we might experience, it would make us getting maturer and stronger in our life.

(Recorded in Sahid Jaya Hotel, Jakarta)

"Mr. LEFT"

"Mr.LEFT"? Yes, you are not "Mr.WRONG"! I would rather call you Mr.LEFT. Why say so? I think there was nobody wrong in this relationship, just because we are moving on different sides, the right for me and the left for you. If I make a list for 10 persons who had affected my life most, you would be one of them. You made me change my lifestyle, my learning, my views, and the definition of love.

Through a friend's visit a few days ago, I heard of your latest status going well. It's good for you. It had been over six months since our last real talk. These days there were some noises echoed in my head, and the frequency of those sounds increasing. I think the main cause is due to our next meeting is approaching more and more. It pushed me to write something here. Though I know very well you won't look my posts, but why bothers? I just want to record my present mood.

Fifty days more, we will meet again, before that, I really wish a chance to talk to you heart to heart. I still have no idea what you are thinking now. Friendship doesn't come easy, and we had been friends for years. It's the last thing I would do to give you any pressure. You could tell me if you thought this relatioship as a burden. What I have been waiting for is still silence. You never showed up and said something. I had ever tried several channels to reopen our conversation but all failed. What could I say? It's a long long distance to reach you, so no matter how you think or act, I indeed have no way to affect your life. Maybe you felt much safer in your own shell.

Here I paste some words from my reading and I wish you might see. If not, I hope we may frankly talk when we meet next time.

"I want and deserve a man who knows he wants to be with me.

If that's not you, I need to know, so I can move on."

Though in the deep of my heart I might guess and catch the answer, I still wish you could let your words spoken.

I think we will be alone eventually at the last second of our life, so before that sad moment I do hope both us will be lucky to keep sharing our life with our beloved, no matter whom the one will be. I can't deny there are some hesitations and struggles staying here. I also wonder if you ever thought of me and cared about our friendship. As people told me, it's dangerous to fall again in such a distant relatioship if lack of trust base. Now I am counting the days left, and buliding more strength inside to see the real YOU at that day.....

Two Boxes

Whenever the weather get cloudy or rainy, my memory box will open. I know very well not dwelling on the past too much, but it just came accross my mind. Though I had accepted the reality what happened, I still had many questions about why. Maybe there won't be any explanation even the one standing in front of me. Is the answer still important to me now? I also wonder what my real inner thought is. "Who care? " I heard a brave sound from distance.

The following post is nothing to do with religious belief, just because I think it's beautiful. I found it in my received emails a few months ago and would like to paste here for sharing. Wish you may find your own two boxes.

Buddha's Boxes

I have in my hands two boxes which Buddha gave me to hold.

He said, 'Put all your sorrows in the black box,

and all your joys in the gold.'

I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,

both my joys and sorrows I stored.

But though the gold became heavier each day,

the black was as light as before.　

With curiosity, I opened the black, I wanted to find out why.

And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,

which my sorrows had fallen out by.

I showed the hole to Buddha, and mused,

'I wonder where my sorrows could be!'

He smiled a gentle smile and said,

'My child, they're all here with me.'

I asked Buddha, why He gave me the boxes,

Why the gold and the black with the hole?

'My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,

The black is for you to let go.'

佛陀的兩個盒子

我手上有兩個盒子　都是佛陀給的

祂說把悲傷放在黑盒子裡　把快樂放在金盒子裡

我聽了他的話　把快樂和悲傷分別裝進兩個盒子裡

不過　金盒子每天都有加重　但黑盒子卻依舊輕省　

我感到很好奇　就打開黑盒子　想要一探究竟

結果　我在盒子底下發現一個洞　我的悲傷都從那邊漏出去了

我把那個洞指給佛陀看　感到納悶?　 我不知道我的悲傷哪裡去了?

他輕輕地微笑說　"我的孩子　它們都在我這兒呢" 　

我問佛陀　為什麼他要給我兩個盒子?　

為什麼一個金色的 　一個黑色卻漏底的?

"我的孩子　金盒子是要給你數算你的祝福的　黑盒子是要給你放下的"

The Right Of Service On Love

Whenever you do something for people, are you really willing to do that? If you really love someone very very much, I bet you will try to give what you can give and even enjoy the power of giving.

Today I read an article - the right of service on love.

When the relationship got stuck, who got the the right of service on love?

吳若權 愛情的發球權

"當感情遇見膠著的瓶頸，誰會真正擁有愛情的發球權呢？"

It catched my attention to think deeply. An echo from my heart had hit me hard for a long time. These days I alomst forgot the feeling of hurt in the past relationship. Day by day I became acceptable about the current status. I tried to understand why people behaved in an unusal manner and out of my thinking. Though it was the last thing I would do, if it's my destiny, maybe to set someone free was the last thing I could do for him.

談感情，行動要積極、態度要謙卑。
緣分來時，懂得感激；緣分走了，虛心接納。

多了幸福、少了怨恨，

情起或緣滅，都是好的際遇、善的因果，

有很多智慧，值得學習。

I agreed to the author's words -

"We should be responsible for our own emotion, and do not leave the key to others to decide what your happiness is. When the fate brings love to you, learn to be grateful. When love leaves you, learn to accept it. More happiness, less regret and hate."

You might feel that is a bit fatalistic, but I would take it as a wisdom for my lesson. In which I ever lost something, but I also got something. We should embrace the imperfection in our life.

It doesn't matter who got the right of service on love. It was my choice to end up my blind waiting and cut down my sadness, to give more space for each other. So far I won't say that love faded already. I just buried it in somewhere of my heart.

From Ending To Beginning

Yesterday was the last working day in Taipei Neihu Technology Park. We will move to a new building in downtown from next Monday. It's very near where now I live. Excluding traveling days, I may go to my office by walking. For me, it's really a good luck and an unexplainable fate. I am very familiar with this area since my first serving company is located here. It's also near Taipei 101. Who can predict where I will be? About 5 years ago, I didn't know I could hold on my current job up to the present and our company will move to this downtown.

The past few weeks a lot of things changed. Some friends were laid off and some is going to quit. To go forward the past few months, I lose an important distant relationship with my friend, but I found new land for my soul, I learned how to do self-healing, I got warm friendship and comforts. As well as those kind consideration, there were also some critical comments and warning to pull out myself from the sad mood. I knew very well no matter which way they expressed, they indeed cared and concerned me. As Mountainmama sent me this quote "There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction ~ Winston Churchill”, I would rather believe that everything will be arranged in its best way.

I think we all got some difficult issues for learning in this life, perhaps in family, friend or career, in physical or mental area. Sometimes I couldn’t help myself to fall into self-pitying, but I won’t allow that emotion stay too long. Now I am looking forward to my new working tempos.

Here I paste some wisdom quotes for myself and share with my dear friends.

About maturity~

Henri Bergson:
To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.

About expectaion~

Joan Didion:
To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves -- there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.

About beginning~

Lazurus Long:
Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.

Be Kind . Be Good

I heard of some friends suffering from illness today. Many sorrows came to my mind. I wish they will soon overcome the hard work with all resources and great courage.

Meanwhile, I also had an introspection on myself. As the same age of people, I should be grateful to God for my good health. I think God give everyone at least a tough issue in his life. Some met bottle neck in career, some fell in unpleasant marriage or relationship, some got sick and some worried all they thought. It seems we all have different issues to learn and conquer. Some can pass through but some might quit in the half way.

I am not sure if you believe the saying of transmigration of the soul in Buddhism. Whenever I met something unfair or horrible, I would have a dialogue with myself- Perhaps I was not good in the past or the previous life so that gave me the test and the chance to learn. I think what we done to others will pay back to ourselves someday. Through some actual cases and my past experience, it's indeed a small world and we might meet each other somewhere occasionally. So do good things and try to be kind to others as possible as we can.

Be Thankful To Those Hurts 感謝疼痛

昨天, 跟一個許久沒見的朋友碰面，兩人聊起來, 近日所遭遇的感情事件竟有許多雷同的戲劇情節, 一樣令人不解，一樣令人心痛，與其用像謎一樣來形容事件的男主角，還不如說他們不夠坦誠。談話的過程，我彷彿看到幾個月前的自己。這樣的愛情，投入與付出較多的那方, 傷得總是最重。我試著以先前自我療癒所學到的方法向那位朋友引導，由衷期盼她失落和不平的心能找到出口，找到寄託。

Yesterday I met a friend. We didn't meet for months. Just got her latest sad love as I ever experienced. Alomst the same senario happened in these men's action. I won't say they were mysterious. I would rather say they were'nt frank in the relationship. I saw my shadow from her stroy. The one who pay much more get more hurt in such a relationship. I tried to give my advise which I applied in my self-healing. I heartfeltly hope she will find a way to get back her lost and upset heart.

我想，用心對待的人，老天爺一定會疼惜他們，就像曾經聽到的這段話：

　『可能神要我們在遇到那位對的人之前先遇上一些錯的人，
　　讓我們遇到那位對的人時懂得珍惜。 』

　　 Perhaps God want us to meet some wrong persons before right persons, then we will know how to cherish when we meet those right persons.

很有智慧，不是嗎？

我的朋友問了我一句話：怎樣才能不再受傷？能夠遇到對的人？

我的心裡頭是沒底的，這個世界，變才是唯一的不變，我們又如何企求對方能夠始終如一呢？若沒有雙方用心盡力的維繫，共同的人生目標，情感關係要想長長久久，約莫是天方夜譚才找得到的劇情。

Well...how to avoid to get hurt again? how to the the right persons?

I have no idea for that actually. The only unchanged thing is it always changes in every second. How could we expect the other never change if we had no common goals for life and both two didn't pay efforts on managing relationship.

今天，在網路上看到吳若權的新文章『受傷的手心』，最後的一段話裏，我找回些許心靈的觸動：

　唯有麻木不仁，才能免除痛的感覺，

　午夜陣陣襲來的疼痛，雖然苦楚，卻表示我，還有知覺。
　原來，手傷、心痛，也可以是一種幸福。

　感謝疼痛，讓我察覺：

　我的手，還可以活動；我的心，還能夠感動！

　Only an unfeeling person won't suffer from hurt.

　Those memory often came across my mind in midnight,

　painful and bitter, but means I am alive, I can feel the world.

　Now I understand, it's a certain kind of happiness to feel the hurt.

　Be thankful to the hurt which let me know,

　My hands can work, and my heart can be touched.

Attitude Toward Problem-Solving

I think you would agree to me that each one has his own way toward problem-solving. It might depend on his growing background, character, age, experience, etc. I was asked to find some old pictures of my school days last night, and glanced an article I ever wrote for a past relationship with my first love. Here I found a common point that I was attracted by the same kind of men in their character. Both two almost had the same behavior model when facing problems-stalling, keeping silence, then disappearance. I was annoyed at the similar situations and felt powerless.

I also had a brief observation on myself that I always falled in a relationship too deep to pull out. I was always the person who paid more attention and consideration than the other. How come? Perhaps because I am the eldest sister in my family and I used to take care of the others, even in my office now, I also act the same role among my colleagues. Should it be my destiny? I refuse to accept that. In the deepest part of my heart, I still eager to be the person cared and cherished by others. That's the main reason I dedicated myself too much whenever I got some consideration and kindness from others.

I am such a woman easily touched by the other's tenderness, and I think standing too reasonable would kill the romance. In my personal philosophy, I like the straight way to express my thoughts and feelings and hate to be a sly guy. I believe and expect we will get mature with age. Knowing well there is no way to enforce the others to deal with things as the same way as I do, I need learn to step out more cautiously and be the master of my own life. Unavoidablely it might hurt me again, but I would rather keep the real part of me and stay in the truth. In some way, those events indeed had taught me a lots.

Four Grades of Concession

Just read an article " Concession would make more progress"(讓步, 才會更進步), writen by one of my favorite authors-吳若權. In which I mostly like the section of concession art in four grades.

-1st grade of concession, to treat the other with high respect.(禮遇)

-2nd grade of concession, to support and agree to the other's thinking and doing.(支持)

-3rd grade of concession, to tolerate and forgive the other's mistake and give a new chance to make up.(包容)

-4th grade of concession, to accomplish the other's happiness, to let the relationship go when his/her heart not in it.(成全)

Actually it's not easy to put those above into practice, especially for the one who paid much more in a relationship. Since we couldn't put all our expectation on the other's shoulder and make him/her change mind, we need to find a way to comfort ourselves. I remind of the words from my recent reading that I decide my own way to happiness. So far, I'm still learning to be a smart guy along the road I chose.

Understanding

Lately we had serial meetings with our boss for the upcoming working plans. I found he got changed and became soft in his attitude when we discussed. It mitigated our tension and stress effectively. I think it's the power of understanding. He could see how hard we had done in such a tightly schedule. Everyone are trying to do a better job.

It impressed me with the importance of words from the similar condition. The frozen atmosphere among people mostly due to less communication. We used to assume the other one's view point or expectation, and let the assumption be our heavy burden. It's really not a wise strategy to leave words unspoken and make decision or assumption without acquiring the other's opinion. We consider ourselves in the right, but ignore to ask or confirm the true need or instruction. We indeed have chance to shorten our guessing time on useless stuff. The same principle also can be applied in the family, friends and emotion areas.

Fortunately most of my coworkers get along well and support each other actively. They are good teachers and helpful friends to me. My personal view is if you treat one in a kind and considerable way, he can feel your sincerity and get understanding eventually. Then a good communication and relationship will happen and last long.

Self-Healing

The first day after my farewell to the past relationship was horrible actually. However I had to pretend nothing happened as usual in the front of my family. I never mentioned the story from the beginning. Got the comforts from some friends yesterday, I would like to say my heartfelt appreciation here. Over the past months, even now, I know I am not standing alone. I will find my strength by those supports from my dear and sweet friends. Today I gave a subject about 'self-healing'.

I found the following statememt in mountain mama's post of 'conflict resolution' is likely my condition. But my event was somewhat different from that.

"i firmly believe that what makes people feel far apart from each other are all the unsaid things between them. silence is what destroys intimacy. it's so hard to know what's true when all you have are silence, your imagination and your past, to try to make sense of things."

Honestly speaking, these days I really kept finding excuses and made assumptions for another one's unusual behavior. What I did was to make them reasonable and acceptable. Waking up from the dream, I know clearly the above was all my single sining.

Looking back upon the past relationship, we did have sweet memories and passion, but my upset and unsafty also stayed for a long period due to no commitment from another one.

It's the moment to draw back my key and reopen the golden box of my happiness.

Give time, time, and let time tell the truth someday. To heal the hurt heart as the days go by.

Yes, maybe he is not the right one I wait for, but I would bless him to choose the one means most to him. As for me, I still have faith and dream. Soon I will pack my baggage again and keep going on another journey, then meet my Mr. Right....

Farewell to The Past Love

It's hard for me to end up the distant relationship, but I did last night. Before that, I ever tried several times to send my concerns and greetings to my parnter, and I didn't get his any reply. His latest message of July 31 stating his sorry ever let me believe he was back, howerver it's a fantasy indeed. I called him last night just to hear his voice. He answered he was still in dinning then suddenly hang up my call. I was shocked by that and felt disappointed. I thought even a friend shouldn't be treated in that impolite way. This event only took 21 seconds and gave me a clear picture about the one.

It's still unbelievable why I met such an unreasonable situation. What hurts most? The man had keeping silent from the unknown difficulties happened from two months ago. Unexceptionally my farewell message last night wasn't replied yet. What kind of the man is? We used to be so close but now go far away.

He ever said if we couldn't be together in this life, we would be the best friends forever. But seeing the current, there were still no chance to say that since his unchangeable silence. No way to proceed the communication. Even coming to the last moment, I still hold a mystery to cut down my blind waiting for him.

The whole story seemed like a dream contained of sweetness, waiting, expectation, sadness, desperation,... Perhaps he hardly spoke out his difficulties, but it doesn't matter for the current situation. Some friends ever advised me to give up the relationship, but I was so persistent to wait for his explaination then.

I remembered I was brave to ask for him "let's give a chance to know each other" and he said yes in March. At the end of the story, I am still brave to say farewell to my love due to his hidden attitude. From now on what I have to do is trying my best to go back to my origional track. Unavoidably our jobs will surely enforce us to meet again next March, and hope we may sit together without any embarrassment then.

Cheers to the past sweet memory we ever shared and toast to my consistence in meeting and losing love! God will bless the broken road and lead me...

Balance All Dimensions Of Life

It's a surprised holiday due to the typhoon's coming. The beginning of the day seemed a bit chaotic for me since my sleeplessness last night for an outcome of my waiting. Recently I was so sensitive and effected by those negative sayings or assumptions. To speak the truth, I was somewhat annoyed at my breakable will.

A friend just inspired me to balance the dimensions of familiy, love, career and friends. I felt upset probably because I made one of them over focused, and I saw my fear to face some reality after digging out the deeply inner part of me. At the moment, learning how to balance my life seems a new course for me.

Where to excercise the new topic? I would picture myself in the central part of the circle with those dimensions. Then I might find out which part is high ratio. The next will be the hardest job to adjust the ratio of my life or focus. Likely one's custom or nature is not easy to be changed in a short time. Anyway, there should be a start...

Get My Faith Back

I ever doubted the existence of a relationship between my partner and me due to his unclear attitude. The more chaotic condition was, the more anxious I felt. How come? I found that mainly came from my lack of confidence and faith.

To examine my personal doing way, I used to be very smart untill I fell into the unclear situation. I felt so powerless to soften or reopen the deadlock.

I coudn't remember which day I suddently got back my faith in my partner. Maybe the comment or words from the others had driven me to a trust mode. Maybe the inner side of me didn't want to give up the relationship in such a way. Maybe the fortuneteller's prediction effected me in some aspect. In the deepest part of my heart, I still believe in him. Eventually I reaffirmed my feelings and attitude toward our relationship.

Well, how to make me in an entirely safe mode without another one's comfortable saying or action? Recently I realized I did have the power to comfort and please myself. Not expect the giving from another one but only count on myself. Before expecting another one, I should learn to fulfill my happiness. Through my faith and practice, I may lead us to a better connection.

Balance

In accounting bookkeeping, 'the credit balance should be always equal to the debit balance'. Well, what about our life? As you see the bright side, you might ignore the opposite side is dark. Let's make some other examples like the following.

Give and Take.

Gain and Loss.

Like and Dislike.

Arrive and Depart.

Stay and leave.

Persist and Desist.

Rights and Duties.

It seems a bit scattered on the above. Did you notice something? Those opposite words somehow reflect a certain kind of attitude, values, mindset and option.

Now, here comes the question and reality. We have to admit those things always exist concurrently but often unbalanced or uncontrollable. Especially whenever you need to make a choice or you have no choice.

I would try to coach myself to understand the difference and conflict in many aspects, such as friendship, career, family, love relationship. To stand at the others' position and listen their inner thoughts. No matter which side we stand or choose, the one at the other side always deserve our respectation and consideration. If we could plus well communication at a proper timing, everything would be more positive and move in a better way.

Expectation

'Give and Take'! Which side you used to stand at? As my friends' knowing, I might mostly choose the giving side. It doesn't mean I have no expectation about my giving. I hope the one in the 'taking side' is pleased to accept and feel comfortable about what I do. In the other aspect, I might espect some feedback as a reward of my giving.

A friend ever advised me not to expect the other's feedback if you do what you please to do. Not for the others, but for myself. You will be fulfilled in seeing the other's smlie and happiness. It's a valued point for me to learn and practice again and again. Then I won't feel lost so frequently.

For sure it's a great pleasure for me whenever I have the chance to stand at the 'taking side'. I also enjoy the concern and care from the 'giving side'.

There is a saying, 'the less expectation, the less disappointment. ' How many of us could really adopt that attitude in our life? It's not easy indeed. But I do believe that 'the more I give, the more I take', and I have already got a lots up to the present.

Blessing

Lately I heard of some friend faced a extremely difficult situation in business, some is going to start his new career, some is always suffering from heavy work loadings. Either in the ongoing or the upcoming condition, everyone seems get somewhat unsure and anxoius about that.

It's hard for me to tell you how to clear out those negative emotions, since I often fell in the same mood. Fortunately I had some life advisors to pull me out of blueness and teach me how to deal with those uncomfortable and upset feelings. I used to question and remind myself if I really had done my best, I should hand over the consquence to God. As we known, the changeable is the only thing unchanged in our life journey.

Here I am going to do is sincerely blessing for all of my friends.

Have the wisdom when you need to make a choice.

Choose a way leads you where you want to go.

Get full supports and resources whenever you need.

Possess great strenth, courage and patience whenever you feel unsure.

Insist your faith and dream till the last moment.

Keep moving to a better tomorrow, a bright future, an abundent life...