Touching Moment Lasting

Our classmate reunion just passed off very successfully this Sunday. I think everyone did have a good time and carried a lot of beautiful memory home these two days. All surprising and sweet arrangement indeed moved us time after time. It's so nice to see those friends almost lost in touch and finally showed up in this important activity. Some said they ever thought not to come and felt glad to be there eventually. We also invited our professors to join in our programs.

The afternoon of the first day we walked around our campus and saw there changed a lot. Those memory of school days came back in that moment. Non-stop chatting, picturing and laughing during our gathering.

A few friends and our teacher had a tea time after our activity, and kept discussing how to plan the next big event- 30th anniversary of calssmate reunion. Wow! Can you imagine that scenery? We all get a little older and some might brought their grandson . It might be another wonderful gathering then.

How lucky I am to have such good partners. Thanks God to give us the fate and unforgettable friendship. No matter how different way we walk along, there is always an invisible connection among us. We will cherish it forever...

If you had interest in sharing our memory, you are welcome to visit my video website.

Be Thankful To Those Hurts 感謝疼痛

昨天, 跟一個許久沒見的朋友碰面，兩人聊起來, 近日所遭遇的感情事件竟有許多雷同的戲劇情節, 一樣令人不解，一樣令人心痛，與其用像謎一樣來形容事件的男主角，還不如說他們不夠坦誠。談話的過程，我彷彿看到幾個月前的自己。這樣的愛情，投入與付出較多的那方, 傷得總是最重。我試著以先前自我療癒所學到的方法向那位朋友引導，由衷期盼她失落和不平的心能找到出口，找到寄託。

Yesterday I met a friend. We didn't meet for months. Just got her latest sad love as I ever experienced. Alomst the same senario happened in these men's action. I won't say they were mysterious. I would rather say they were'nt frank in the relationship. I saw my shadow from her stroy. The one who pay much more get more hurt in such a relationship. I tried to give my advise which I applied in my self-healing. I heartfeltly hope she will find a way to get back her lost and upset heart.

我想，用心對待的人，老天爺一定會疼惜他們，就像曾經聽到的這段話：

　『可能神要我們在遇到那位對的人之前先遇上一些錯的人，
　　讓我們遇到那位對的人時懂得珍惜。 』

　　 Perhaps God want us to meet some wrong persons before right persons, then we will know how to cherish when we meet those right persons.

很有智慧，不是嗎？

我的朋友問了我一句話：怎樣才能不再受傷？能夠遇到對的人？

我的心裡頭是沒底的，這個世界，變才是唯一的不變，我們又如何企求對方能夠始終如一呢？若沒有雙方用心盡力的維繫，共同的人生目標，情感關係要想長長久久，約莫是天方夜譚才找得到的劇情。

Well...how to avoid to get hurt again? how to the the right persons?

I have no idea for that actually. The only unchanged thing is it always changes in every second. How could we expect the other never change if we had no common goals for life and both two didn't pay efforts on managing relationship.

今天，在網路上看到吳若權的新文章『受傷的手心』，最後的一段話裏，我找回些許心靈的觸動：

　唯有麻木不仁，才能免除痛的感覺，

　午夜陣陣襲來的疼痛，雖然苦楚，卻表示我，還有知覺。
　原來，手傷、心痛，也可以是一種幸福。

　感謝疼痛，讓我察覺：

　我的手，還可以活動；我的心，還能夠感動！

　Only an unfeeling person won't suffer from hurt.

　Those memory often came across my mind in midnight,

　painful and bitter, but means I am alive, I can feel the world.

　Now I understand, it's a certain kind of happiness to feel the hurt.

　Be thankful to the hurt which let me know,

　My hands can work, and my heart can be touched.

Random Talk

There was a long lag in my blogging recently. One of the reasons was my lack of inspiration, the second was I indeed felt exausted after every daylong working. Even in such ordinary days, I still felt good in some fresh stuffs. I went to see the exhibition of Pixar 20 years of animaion and went to hot spring of Peitou last Saturday. I also knew some new friends through my old classmate that day. It's a nice and casual tour!

Here is one thing worth mentioned. Due to the upcoming big event for our class reunion after twenty years, some warmhearted classmates were devoted their time to preparation. Many details need to be taken care, and we could understand how hard to squeeze time from busy days. I think no one would complain if there was no volunteer. I am heartfelt thankful for their kindness and enthusiasm. One more cheering thing is some people lost in touch were reconnected through those warmhearted friends' efforts. Without their cooperation, we won't have a chance to hold the reunion activity. It reminded me of a good quote:

Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.

Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Among those preparation, I am responsible of making short films. I used a lot of old photos provided by some classmates. I found greate fun in edition and recalled those school days back. When those photos met the old music, everything seemed all so right and let me feel touched. Wish all my classmates would feel the same way at that moment when we playing those films and have happy hours. In some way, the process made me felt like a movie maker. Ha Ha..

Attitude Toward Problem-Solving

I think you would agree to me that each one has his own way toward problem-solving. It might depend on his growing background, character, age, experience, etc. I was asked to find some old pictures of my school days last night, and glanced an article I ever wrote for a past relationship with my first love. Here I found a common point that I was attracted by the same kind of men in their character. Both two almost had the same behavior model when facing problems-stalling, keeping silence, then disappearance. I was annoyed at the similar situations and felt powerless.

I also had a brief observation on myself that I always falled in a relationship too deep to pull out. I was always the person who paid more attention and consideration than the other. How come? Perhaps because I am the eldest sister in my family and I used to take care of the others, even in my office now, I also act the same role among my colleagues. Should it be my destiny? I refuse to accept that. In the deepest part of my heart, I still eager to be the person cared and cherished by others. That's the main reason I dedicated myself too much whenever I got some consideration and kindness from others.

I am such a woman easily touched by the other's tenderness, and I think standing too reasonable would kill the romance. In my personal philosophy, I like the straight way to express my thoughts and feelings and hate to be a sly guy. I believe and expect we will get mature with age. Knowing well there is no way to enforce the others to deal with things as the same way as I do, I need learn to step out more cautiously and be the master of my own life. Unavoidablely it might hurt me again, but I would rather keep the real part of me and stay in the truth. In some way, those events indeed had taught me a lots.

Four Grades of Concession

Just read an article " Concession would make more progress"(讓步, 才會更進步), writen by one of my favorite authors-吳若權. In which I mostly like the section of concession art in four grades.

-1st grade of concession, to treat the other with high respect.(禮遇)

-2nd grade of concession, to support and agree to the other's thinking and doing.(支持)

-3rd grade of concession, to tolerate and forgive the other's mistake and give a new chance to make up.(包容)

-4th grade of concession, to accomplish the other's happiness, to let the relationship go when his/her heart not in it.(成全)

Actually it's not easy to put those above into practice, especially for the one who paid much more in a relationship. Since we couldn't put all our expectation on the other's shoulder and make him/her change mind, we need to find a way to comfort ourselves. I remind of the words from my recent reading that I decide my own way to happiness. So far, I'm still learning to be a smart guy along the road I chose.

A Closing Of My Trip

Three weeks passed by, it's my last day of this business trip. I get relaxed by listening some old songs, drinking some wine and enjoying the relaxed moment. I felt so grateful for everything proceeding well. Each successful project should owe to our fantastic members and good teamwork. Before I leave for my hometown, I would like to summarize a few harvest for these days.

The first time of life experience

-transferred airline in Seoul airport.

-travel from Qingdao to Nanjin alone.

-visited my classmate in Suzhou.

-visited Tang Tsu Fang(田子坊) in Shanghai

Friendship & Emotion

-knew a lot of new friends during our audit.

-had good communication in each meeting and survey.

-exchange mental thinking and life experience with my working partners.

-got more control for anonymous feelings.

-got a lot of mental food from friends's sharing.

Material
-went shopping and felt good.

-had several delicious meals with my colleagues and working partners.

-went to foot massage twice.

Compared with the past travel experience, these days I was more concentrated on auditing than my last trip. It's really a good thing for me to achieve goals efficiently. I found a shortcut to my happiness - "Just take it easy". Once I changed my mindset, every difficulty seemed to become simple. Then I could get composed and logical on making analysis.

As our annual workplan, I won't travel again by the year end. I am going home and back to a free world of blogging.

A Colorful Weekend

It's the last week of my business trip in China. We will visit 4 companies and move to 3 hotels in this week. As usual, some mornings I still forgot where I was. Last Saturday I arrived at Shanghai and moved to the same room where I ever lived in my last trip during May and June. What a fantastic fate is! Even now I also remember those sweet and sad things happened then. But I feel better than my last visit here. I couldn't connect to my blog these nights in hotel, neither in Nanjing nor in Shanghai. It made me depressed and paused my blog writing.

After two weeks of hard working, these two days I had a colorful weekend and would like to record the beautiful memory for myself.

Sep.5, Shangai

My colleague and I went to "Tianzifang"(田子坊). This place is filled with creative ideas and arts everywhere. You may get more details from the introduction. We found some special things, bought some gifts for our friends, and had a great coffee time in that afternoon. That night, we two ladies drank a bottle of wine in hotel and felt delightful.

Sep.6, Suzhou

This Sunday my colleague and I went to Suzhou for one day tour. It took forty minutes by speedy train from Shanghai to Suzhou. I ever lived that city about 7 years ago. Though it changed a lot in these years, it still is a beautiful city with great cutural heritage. Suzhou is famous of its graden buildings. We chose to visit the Lingering Garden (留園), one of China's four most famous gardens. I couldn't figure out how many time I went there. But I still enjoyed that easy mood. Even in early September, it's still too hot to take a long walk outside. Soon we both got exhausted.

The second stop we visited the Shan-tang Street. I liked to explore those oldish things and felt relaxed while walked along those old streets.At the end of the day we had a short meeting with my classmate and was hosted by a delicious dinner.

Bodhisattva Of Adversity

I got a meaningful article from a friend's sharing today. The topic is "Bodhisattva Of Adversity" (逆境菩薩). The story stated a man had changed twelve jobs in ten years. You won't believe the same reason for his leaving was those companies going out of business. When he applied a new job, the head proctor didn't think he would have a chance to compete with the other candidates.

The man said , "I understood very much that 12 companies, I tried hard to save them with my colleagues, although it failed, but I knew each detail of those mistakes and defeats, and learn a lot from those experiences. Not everyone had the chance to learn that. Many people only pursue for success, but I, have the experience to avoid the mistake and the defeat! ......"
“I knew most of successful experience were similar, easy to imitate, but the reason of defeat actually different in each case. With ten-year study on successful experience, was inferior that with the similar time on experiencing mistakes and defeats. Could learn more and more profoundly. I believed that others' successful experience is very difficult to become our wealth, but others' defeat process is actually our precious wealth!”

How would you say that? I extracted some good view points here and my understanding for sharing.
Not only our enemy or the bad circumstance will defeat us. Sometimes the most intimate persons would hurt us deeply indeed. It's easier to forgive the enemy than our family or best friends. Those who gave us pain, failure, sadness and hurt are called "Bodhisattva Of Adversity" in Buddhism. They are the best gifts from God. Those unforgetable experience will help us to grow up and cherish the good things in our life. We may say that it's also a certain kind of inspiration in some way.

Learn to be thankful to them and smile at every test. Toast to the adversity and those who gave us tough issues in our life. Through that, we might feel the sunshine more beautiful than ever, and connect to the better future. It's not easy to do. But I would like to make this as a start.