How about your mood today? happy or sad? felt encouraged or depressed? What effected your emotion? people, your job, a judgement, or something else? But why and who care? If you feel right and happy for the moment, just ask others to join in and share with them. You will get the double of your happiness.I had a chance to have a Japanesque dinner with my colleagues yesterday. I like to dine with them in a very relaxed atmosphere. I don't like the social dinner, it enforces me to wear a laughing mask. But as you see, sometimes we have no choice and have to compromise with life. It's the reality we know very clearly. So I will hold the available moment to have fun for myself, to invite good friends to enjoy the happy hours, even only one night of my trip, like an episode for recharging my energy for the next journey. 
If you really felt not good today, you may try to question yourself what made you laugh last time. What things had led you to laugh easily and loudly without considering other's attention? How about a comic, a novel, or freak jokes? Then just do it now! Before your warmhearted help to others, you need to be generous to yourself, and you deserve to give yourself the best.
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elaine, this is such a wonderful post~~ you are so right. it is good to live in the moment and celebrate happiness when we have this moment. to take the time to do that.
and i can relate to you feeling difficult in social situations when you aren't feeling happy. and i find it impossible to wear a mask! i hope that spending time with happy others genuinely brought out some happiness in you and you did not feel you needed any mask~~
and yes, it is so good to think of the things that make us happy and feel good and keep them as a resource for ourselves~~
thank you for sharing your all wisdom~~~
thanks mountainmama for your inspiring words about my rough thoughts. and relating to your post "grudges and boundaries", friendship like onion, those social friends would be set by me in the outer layer(even the outest). we might need them in some aspect, but still keep some distance from them. it's hard to know who are talking to you is delivering the true voice. and make me feel unsafe to get closer.
may you have a nice weekend and enjoy the happy hours with those whom you would like to share. :)
thank you, elaine. i like how you said this, "it's hard to know who are talking to you is delivering the true voice. and make me feel unsafe to get closer." i have to remember this too and be careful when sharing my open heart.
hope you have a wonderful weekend too!
well..mountainmama, you are right. we all need to see more clearly before we jump in one relationship. and if already in, be sure to take good care of ourselves on the way.
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